"Spanfeller is a twat" (theaspiringengineer)
10/23/2020 at 12:08 • Filed to: None
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"Spanfeller is a twat" (theaspiringengineer)
10/23/2020 at 12:08 • Filed to: None | 1
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The interesting thing about this 3er, is that it’s the first car I’ve ever driven to a date that wound up becoming a one night stand. Upsetting? Maybe, you prude. Funnily enough, a one night stand in Galicia looks more like a one hour road trip across the province than anything else. I actually took this photo on my way back home, I was listening to a political talk show on the radio because I had no bluetooth connectivity with my phone... It was a couple of months before Rajoy was forced to step down.
More than ten years ago, my grandmother started shopping for a new car. Her green minivan, a renault with a diesel engine, was starting to give some trouble, and truthfully everyone hated it. She didn’t care much about cars and knew she wasn’t a good driver. I still remember that when she showed me the two pamphlets; I said I prefered the C class. But she ended up getting a
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because it was cheaper.
My grandfather, who is a cheapskate, probably chose the 320d because he knew he would drive the car somewhat often and wanted the more powerful motor, but also got the basic cloth seats and the basic radio, no parking sensors... zilch. I think he also bought his X5 around that time period, a range topping 40d with a sunroof, navigation, xenon lights, leather interior, pretty much everything.
It’s worth noting that he also had a v6 audi A6... also very well equipped. since then he’s had three cars and always complained in a goldilocks fashion about how they drive on the highway, how hard or easy they are to park, but whatever.
Now, both the X5 and the 3er have remained in our possession, but around three years ago my grandmother was diagnosed with alzheimer’s disease, but she had stopped driving four or five years ago. Given my grandfather is good for cars, the 3er was sort of... left alone for the longest time. It would literally be only used whenever his grandchildren visited. But now that none of us are in school anymore we don’t visit in the same time periods, so there’s never a need for a third car. and so it sat there, just doing nothing.
Some time ago, his children asked him to sell the 3er, and he has refused because it was his wife’s “last car” and it carried some emotional significance to it. To which I thought
screw you
.
He spent three quarters of her life making her feel miserable about spending on expensive shit
for her
because he was a cheapskate, but now that she’s disabled he wants to keep this ten year old diesel base trim BMW as a symbol. A symbol to what, exactly? My grandmother wrote plays, appeared in a documentary, made art (and none of it is hung in his house), and he wants to keep a stupid car as a symbol of her?
fuck that noise
.
I think he doesn’t want to sell it because he can’t be bothered. Or because he thinks the resale value is not good enough, or just because he’s stubborn. But because his wife is disabled (which is a tragedy, but let’s not delve on it more than necessary) now he gets a pass on
everything
. Including whether this car gets sold or not.
I didn’t intend on airing dirty laundry around here, I tried to keep it to a minimum. But I just think it’s a pointless whim of his. If this was a nice car that she liked, or a car they had history with (maybe they went on a nice road trip together, in it but I know they did not) I could almost understand it. But, I just can’t.
I think that we have to see cars for what they are. Sometimes things around them make them more important, sometimes they don’t deserve to be seen as anything other than hunks of metal.
sometimes we aren’t given a choice, and sometimes we are. I know my great grandfather gave my uncle a Mercedes 230 and he kept it for that reason alone, and I plan to keep my SLK230 for comparable reasons.
But if he thinks the car should be kept in our possession as a show of respect to her... I think he’s nuts. I can understand he must be going through one of the hardest periods of his life, but there are more healthy and respectful ways of dealing with this kind of intense pain than to delve on a red 3er.
Textured Soy Protein
> Spanfeller is a twat
10/23/2020 at 12:32 |
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In my experience, people in general get sentimental about stupid illogical shit, and old people in particular are more sentimental, illogical and stubborn.
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Spanfeller is a twat
> Textured Soy Protein
10/23/2020 at 12:47 |
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What really bothers me is that im not certain whether to confront him or not. Because in many ways it's kind of irrelevant. But I'm worried if the reasons why it isn't irrelevant do warrant a confrontation.
Jb boin
> Spanfeller is a twat
10/23/2020 at 13:11 |
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If nobody in the family needs the money then let him have his car even if it’s a bit stupid.
You can try to make sense into him but don’t get mad if you can , it’s only a car and it already has depreciated enough that one or two more years won’t change much to it’s value anymore.
I don’t know if it’s the case here but with Alzheimer (and similar illness), sometimes there is some kind of denial from the other person of the couple : he might cling on the idea that maybe she could get better (or at least not get worst) and be able to use again her car one day and/or that she would only be disoriented even more if her car is not here anymore.
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Spanfeller is a twat
> Jb boin
10/23/2020 at 13:24 |
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If he wants to find things to reminisce , I think it’s not great to focus on the car. I think it keeps his focus away from what might be more meaningful... but maybe he does it on purpose...
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Jb boin
> Spanfeller is a twat
10/23/2020 at 13:40 |
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It might not be about reminiscing, i forgot to mention that it could also be like “i don’t want (her) to think/feel that we are ‘over’ her by already selling all that she had and made her a normal person and that she is now just considered as a weight rather than a normal member of the family”.
Or simply it could make him feel that selling her things feels like it’s like s he is already gone.
It c ould also be marking the fact in his mind that she will never drive again and be a “normal” person having a “normal” life, facing those facts might be stressing and depressing and peoples sometimes avoid them and stay in denial.
My bird IS the word
> Spanfeller is a twat
10/23/2020 at 14:25 |
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Old people cling to things because they are at the stage of their life when most things are leaving, and few are entering.